Maybe it’s just my experience but those closest to me are the weirdest and most honest and vocal humans in existence. Is that a reflection of what is jillanne? Unique and opinionated is more appropriate.
What do they think?
Since starting this blog some friends and another slightly closer have shared some of their opinions. They were all men.
Another’s perspective is golden.
Hearing others thoughts on most subjects [including gender equality] is the reason for living. Opposing ideas invoke thought. Trying to understand the perspective of another human being is crucial. They were defensive when sharing their thoughts. First of all men today can hardly be held responsible. I’m not angry with men. This is just what we were born in.
A couple of friends felt these articles hypocritical.
If they read any revisions or even rough posts they’d notice how wrong they are. Time to clear up any misconceptions.
Psssst don’t tell anyone, buuuuut….
Surprise! years of doing things without thinking of others made for many dramas. Running into wall after wall making enemies and looking like an idiot. Even to this day following my own rules is sometimes hard. Maybe I’m a glutton for punishment.
How can we help.
No I’m not an ideal role model. Not in my opinion, but the need is there. I try to do right even in my human self centered condition.
I can speak to a group of girls that may be more like me. Unpolished unrefined and sadly uneducated.Trying not to be a hypocritical hot mess. Just trying to make things better and be a part of something bigger.
Working is important to living a life you desire. With out money there is little a person can do. The more you work the more you make. Education and knowledge matter as well. Let’s face it without a job you’re at the mercy of society and that’s not forgiving.
Must look fly
My skin needs lotion and I need name brand shoes, pants, shirts, well, everything. Without work that pays me finding a man that’s working would be imperative to a desirable lifestyle. Since answering to some dude isn’t appealing I’ll get my lazy ass up. Looking good is natural for me but it takes a few bucks to polish the pretty out of all this.
Feel sick? Not today, Satan. Not today.
Feeling like death warmed over? Still work. Why? Because crap isn’t free. From toes to nose there’s something to buy. With out it can’t look fly. On days like today snuggled close to my lover only my truck payment motivated movement. After much wining and moaning and groaning gathered clothes for work and slowly made it out the door. Leaving warm loving hands to make sure we had the things in which we desire.
A gift from the universe for doing the right thing.
Just think. This beautiful sunset was here waiting for me. I would’ve missed this magic had I not left my warm loves embrace.
In closing it isn’t always what I want to do and surely there are those that relate. Working keeps things smooth and my ass in doors not taking the bus. Thank God for the career I have. But if anyone has any passive income ideas that actually work and pay feel free to share.
It is with great hesitation we get thru this presentation. Putting off this creation to enjoy that lazy sensation.
When you put off what needs to get done….
Already a rough week the boss said don’t come in tonight midweek dayshift road truck Thursday. Not good news. Saturday my glasses disappeared from the water truck. Been blind but procrastinating the eye Dr not only for days, But for 2 years. Not only was the eye Dr on the avoid at all costs list, but so was the dmv. There was a chance I wasn’t road legal. Had to tell the boss. Then called Hilda the dispatch for our road trucks. Then the head honcho, Mr m. Let’s just say he was less than pleased. He had every right to be. At the dmv 4 different things needed to be handled.
Now 2 days no pay😬
Luckily Mr M. was pretty nice about it all. He did say how important keeping up on all my cdl stuff was. I felt terrible for not being prepared. When a driver can’t be there they have to rent a whole truck and driver. Can’t be cheap.
If it’s your living don’t even cut it close.
He told me that my cdl is super important and keeping it up to date and taking care of all that is needed for my cdl to maintain my job was more than necessary to my way of living. He kindly made sure I got the time off needed. 7 hours at the dmv and all those issues were gone. Then emergency glasses were made up from my favorite sunglasses by a hero named Josie. I managed with alot of luck to handle it in one day leaving me broke but no longer blind or concerned that my cdl wasn’t in affect.
Being a female working with primarily guys you will find Haters.
For the most part if you’re exuding confidence, practicing selective socialization, and doing your job your coworkers will be supportive and sometimes even playful. Where I work is fun because of the people that work here. That is for the most part. You’ll find those that speak to you as if you’re a child. You’ll find those that give you the wrong information on purpose so you’ll mess up. Dangerous. You’ll find those that will not even acknowledge your existence. There’s always those that believe women are on this planet for their pleasure being crude rude and downright perverted. You’ll even find those that are openly hostile. It’s because of all these types we keep notes and keep to ourselves.
We all need a little help sometimes.
You can’t avoid asking for help sometimes. It’s work and unless you’re super human you’re gonna run across problems you may not be equipped to deal with. It was uncomfortable asking a known hater for help. It didn’t go bad but a couple of times. Bosses hate hearing “but he said…” they want to hear you own up. Accepting responsibility for things not my fault was not ok. The best thing is to rise above this. The positive effects of doing the thing wrong is you’ll remember the right way better or at the very least know NOT to do it like that rotten person said. To avoid this trap ask more than one person. Call or text if necessary. Make sure you document the incident.
I’m not stupid damn it.
This particular behavior really makes me angry. This particular “hater” is more than annoying. The thing is coworkers can be competitive and will try to make you Look and feel dumb. I distanced myself from coworkers because of these games.
I’m not invisible dude
Out of all the “haters” mentioned in this post the person that’s ignoring, you is the easiest. He’s’s not putting you in danger on purpose. He’s not trying to really do anything but ignore you all together. This could be a problem if you’re forced to work together. Don’t push these guys. Sometimes they need more time than the others for you to show them you’re about it at work so just be patient. They don’t wanna get themselves in trouble and that keeps you outta trouble.
Work isn’t a place to fraternize.
Ok I get it. I work with some attractive hard working men. It’s so easy to say fuck the “don’t date at work” rule and go out with a coworker. My God, is this a stupid thing to do. It starts as basic sexual harrassment. Instead of reporting it like you should have this creep will wear you down till you date him. So many bad things can happen Fact is ladies we need to set our boundries and if they’re crossed you absolutely have to act. Some men just can’t control their mouth or even their hands. Unacceptable. Plain and simple. You are worth more than what’s between your legs. Don’t let anyone demean you in this way at work. Many will lose respect for you and you don’t want that.
Someone needs a chill pill foreal.
running into someone openly hostile towards you is scary. Verbal hostility happened to me before. Telling the company you work for and documenting any verbal hostility is a good course of action. Your notes need to be thorough and dated. As far as physical hostility at work is concerned, it’s not happened to me yet. If a man has physically attacked you there’s no other option but to report this. Feel sorry for this man’s romantic relationships. If he’s doing this to you, a coworker, then imagine how he treats those he loves and is around him in personal life.
“Haters” are all over. They’re at work and in our personal lives. “Haters” gonna hate and that’s fine. Keep doing you. Stay focused on your goals and appreciate your “fans” watching and criticizing your every move.
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