Maybe it’s just my experience but those closest to me are the weirdest and most honest and vocal humans in existence. Is that a reflection of what is jillanne? Unique and opinionated is more appropriate.
What do they think?
Since starting this blog some friends and another slightly closer have shared some of their opinions. They were all men.
Another’s perspective is golden.
Hearing others thoughts on most subjects [including gender equality] is the reason for living. Opposing ideas invoke thought. Trying to understand the perspective of another human being is crucial. They were defensive when sharing their thoughts. First of all men today can hardly be held responsible. I’m not angry with men. This is just what we were born in.
A couple of friends felt these articles hypocritical.
If they read any revisions or even rough posts they’d notice how wrong they are. Time to clear up any misconceptions.
Psssst don’t tell anyone, buuuuut….
Surprise! years of doing things without thinking of others made for many dramas. Running into wall after wall making enemies and looking like an idiot. Even to this day following my own rules is sometimes hard. Maybe I’m a glutton for punishment.
How can we help.
No I’m not an ideal role model. Not in my opinion, but the need is there. I try to do right even in my human self centered condition.
I can speak to a group of girls that may be more like me. Unpolished unrefined and sadly uneducated.Trying not to be a hypocritical hot mess. Just trying to make things better and be a part of something bigger.
It is with great hesitation we get thru this presentation. Putting off this creation to enjoy that lazy sensation.
When you put off what needs to get done….
Already a rough week the boss said don’t come in tonight midweek dayshift road truck Thursday. Not good news. Saturday my glasses disappeared from the water truck. Been blind but procrastinating the eye Dr not only for days, But for 2 years. Not only was the eye Dr on the avoid at all costs list, but so was the dmv. There was a chance I wasn’t road legal. Had to tell the boss. Then called Hilda the dispatch for our road trucks. Then the head honcho, Mr m. Let’s just say he was less than pleased. He had every right to be. At the dmv 4 different things needed to be handled.
Now 2 days no pay😬
Luckily Mr M. was pretty nice about it all. He did say how important keeping up on all my cdl stuff was. I felt terrible for not being prepared. When a driver can’t be there they have to rent a whole truck and driver. Can’t be cheap.
If it’s your living don’t even cut it close.
He told me that my cdl is super important and keeping it up to date and taking care of all that is needed for my cdl to maintain my job was more than necessary to my way of living. He kindly made sure I got the time off needed. 7 hours at the dmv and all those issues were gone. Then emergency glasses were made up from my favorite sunglasses by a hero named Josie. I managed with alot of luck to handle it in one day leaving me broke but no longer blind or concerned that my cdl wasn’t in affect.
Being a female working with primarily guys you will find Haters.
For the most part if you’re exuding confidence, practicing selective socialization, and doing your job your coworkers will be supportive and sometimes even playful. Where I work is fun because of the people that work here. That is for the most part. You’ll find those that speak to you as if you’re a child. You’ll find those that give you the wrong information on purpose so you’ll mess up. Dangerous. You’ll find those that will not even acknowledge your existence. There’s always those that believe women are on this planet for their pleasure being crude rude and downright perverted. You’ll even find those that are openly hostile. It’s because of all these types we keep notes and keep to ourselves.
We all need a little help sometimes.
You can’t avoid asking for help sometimes. It’s work and unless you’re super human you’re gonna run across problems you may not be equipped to deal with. It was uncomfortable asking a known hater for help. It didn’t go bad but a couple of times. Bosses hate hearing “but he said…” they want to hear you own up. Accepting responsibility for things not my fault was not ok. The best thing is to rise above this. The positive effects of doing the thing wrong is you’ll remember the right way better or at the very least know NOT to do it like that rotten person said. To avoid this trap ask more than one person. Call or text if necessary. Make sure you document the incident.
I’m not stupid damn it.
This particular behavior really makes me angry. This particular “hater” is more than annoying. The thing is coworkers can be competitive and will try to make you Look and feel dumb. I distanced myself from coworkers because of these games.
I’m not invisible dude
Out of all the “haters” mentioned in this post the person that’s ignoring, you is the easiest. He’s’s not putting you in danger on purpose. He’s not trying to really do anything but ignore you all together. This could be a problem if you’re forced to work together. Don’t push these guys. Sometimes they need more time than the others for you to show them you’re about it at work so just be patient. They don’t wanna get themselves in trouble and that keeps you outta trouble.
Work isn’t a place to fraternize.
Ok I get it. I work with some attractive hard working men. It’s so easy to say fuck the “don’t date at work” rule and go out with a coworker. My God, is this a stupid thing to do. It starts as basic sexual harrassment. Instead of reporting it like you should have this creep will wear you down till you date him. So many bad things can happen Fact is ladies we need to set our boundries and if they’re crossed you absolutely have to act. Some men just can’t control their mouth or even their hands. Unacceptable. Plain and simple. You are worth more than what’s between your legs. Don’t let anyone demean you in this way at work. Many will lose respect for you and you don’t want that.
Someone needs a chill pill foreal.
running into someone openly hostile towards you is scary. Verbal hostility happened to me before. Telling the company you work for and documenting any verbal hostility is a good course of action. Your notes need to be thorough and dated. As far as physical hostility at work is concerned, it’s not happened to me yet. If a man has physically attacked you there’s no other option but to report this. Feel sorry for this man’s romantic relationships. If he’s doing this to you, a coworker, then imagine how he treats those he loves and is around him in personal life.
“Haters” are all over. They’re at work and in our personal lives. “Haters” gonna hate and that’s fine. Keep doing you. Stay focused on your goals and appreciate your “fans” watching and criticizing your every move.
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Hello every one. Another great day in the quarry. Day shift has been great this time. The good guys win and it feels amazing. Also I out shined myself. Thanks to this blog I found my confidence. Talk about hard lesson learned. Just that alone has changed my entire life. Blog and boss helped build that confidence in myself and my work.
That being said, doing research for my next article has brought something out. My next article is about men doing more “feminine” type jobs. We don’t encourage our young men to cross that line. I figured it was about the money…. what I have learned struck me. We all know I’m not a feminist who hates men for the sake that they are men. I love the opposite sex. Most of my friends are men. I’m heterosexual so there’s that. But what I learned made me angry. I don’t blame our men. I honestly haven’t learned who is at fault here. FAULT MATTERS VERY LITTLE. JUST A SOLUTION.
How can we change an entire societies views on all things feminine?
This blog is starting to gear towards the movement.
when this was started I just wanted to get a simple message to girls that they can do whatever they want even play in the dirt all day and get paid. I knew very little about gender equality tho it’s been a big part of my daily life for decades. In doing TH3 WORKS here on WordPress I’ve had to research issues because I want to be accurate in my info and message. Ladies this issue isn’t just in this country it’s world wide. And it’s not just an employment issue. It’s an out right discrimination against all things feminine. Now some people may blame our men. I’m not thinking that. How did this happen? We are mothers and beautiful.
Thinking of starting up donations to bring awareness.
I hate that not enough folks are educated on the facts. Even me. I’m barely scratching the surface here.
Let’s just get it out in the open right now. For many labor and construction gigs a person needs little education. Still they can support a family of 5 with their paycheck. I call that “man money”. At 23 I found myself unable to work in casinos for a while and I only had a GED so basically no real chance to make any real money. In 1 month I could have my commercial driver’s license making nearly 20 an hour. 20 bucks an hour was going to change my life.
2. Challenging and rewarding work
The challenge isn’t just the work. It is silencing a mind that wakes up saying “you don’t belong here. This job is too good for you. You are an imposter”. It is ignoring folks that wanna convince you the same. It is being afraid of doing a certain thing and then doing it anyway to succeed and feel confident and even pride for your accomplishments. The gratitude, pride, and confidence are some of the rewards.
3. Standing for equality
Just suiting up and showing up is doing more than getting you a weekly paycheck. You are helping to change the world and how it views women. Especially if you follow a few simple guidelines. Talk about making a difference no more. By doing what you do in a male dominated field you become the change. How easy? Stand tall and feel like a boss ass babe cuz that’s what you’ll be.
4. A large family of brothers
Yes ma’am this right here is fact. In some articles you’ll read how to avoid the bad seeds or how to manage them. Truth be told the majority of men you work with are supportive and want to protect you. It is such a good feeling. Just go in do your job to your best ability and mind your business and your brothers will have your back.
5. A role model
A young girl will see you and what you do and think “wow I wanna be like her” without seeing women doing these jobs they won’t even think to try. You get to be a reason another little girl will go after what she really wants. Get it, girl.
As far as the construction trades are concerned this is true. Today is a perfect example. Running big rock trucks in iffy spaces dumping over edges very safely probably. It was an amazing and challenging day. I love my job. Today I got many “atta girl”s and faced a few fears. Um talk about feeling strong and independent. The money means not having to depend on anyone but yourself to make it. Buy your own car your own home and your own vacation.
Now you see only a few solid reasons why to pursue a career in a field not necessarily tailored to our gender. 6. reasons that inspire.