11 tips for women working in construction.

my experience has been in the construction trades but I’m positive these tips are universal.

Nobody said this was going to be easy.

Here we are 2021 and women are still fighting for equal rights. Having the issues that we still have seems unrealistic. The tips on this article comes from experience. Not just mine. Read many articles reports other blogs like this one to make sure this advice is sound and highly recommended. Women paid for this knowledge and not in cash. Paid in tears, reputation, lost hours, and pride. Hopefully someone can learn from the mistakes of those that came before them avoiding having to feel shitty each time these issues come up and they failed to meet the demand. It’s ok to make mistakes. That’s one thing you really need to give yourself room to do. Ok let’s dive into the article.

1.Confidence is crucial

If YOU’RE not confident in your abilities then how can you expect anyone else to be. You’re a trained professional. You were hired to do said job. Girl, you got this. Straighten up your back, Make your presence big, Smile and go do your job. Also [this is a 2 part tip] be confident in who you are as a person. Know yourself. It is really easy to try to blend in more by changing your appearance and behavior to seem more manly and tough. The “tough guy” act only alienates you further. If you normally like to dress up like a girl then dress as a woman going to work. I work a construction type of job so I can’t be too girly but fitting clothes and a dash of make up do wonders for a girl’s self esteem. Plus it makes you look more put together. It also will help you feel more like yourself. This will also boost your confidence.

Statistics show this to be true.

2. Stand up for yourself.

You know that saying the squeaky wheel gets the grease. Well in this that rings very true. You have to make yourself be heard sometimes. You may be quiet and mousey on your own time but working with men you’re gonna have to find your voice and make it heard. You may have to schedule a meeting with your boss or just stand up and make yourself be heard. It pays off having a big presence. Don’t be afraid to speak up, ask questions, or voice your opinion. It matters a great deal. In my career if you don’t speak up someone might get hurt or die. Those might not be the stakes at your job but everytime you’re heard women move fwd. Who cares if anyone thinks you’re a bitch?

“I believe anyone can conquer fear by doing the things he fears to do, provided he keeps doing them until he gets a record of successful experience behind him.”

Eleanor roosevelt
Eleanor roosevelt was a smart cookie

3. Face fear head on.

Eleanor said it best. If you’re afraid of it then face it. Continue to face that fear till you no longer fear that thing. Fear is the biggest reason women aren’t reporting issues at work. I know this because I was too afraid to report an issue and it got so out of control it nearly cost me everything. Ladies if you’re being harassed or treated unfairly in any way you must go thru the proper channels and rectify the issue. It sets the whole movement back when things aren’t reported.

4. Keep detailed and dated notes

This is really important. It may not seem like such a big deal but everytime things weren’t getting written down it was needed. Everytime things were the notes were appreciated. Facts are best to be written as they happen. Dates notes that incidences have been documented in are used as evidence in a family court. Companies and unions tell us to keep detailed notes that are dated. They advise this for a reason. Take the advise and thank yourself later.

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5. Keep your personal life to yourself

Do not share info about your personal life. This gives people room to find a way to manipulate or hurt you. Besides your coworkers do not care about your latest love interest or that your bff is dating 4 different guys. Keep that stuff for your personal friends. Work is for work and work related topics. Also do your best not to gossip. Believe it or not men seem to be the worst gossips. Just avoid that all together. It’ll keep you out of trouble.

Capricia the newest haul truck addition. You go girl.

6. Selective socialization

Like many of these tips selective socialization is just smart. There are many reasons for this to be applied when working with primarily men. First if all being too social will cause people to talk. Talk to much to a person suddenly your reputation is in question then you have a shit ton of new “work friends” be mindful of who you talk to and who is watching who you talk to. Secondly, as lame as this may sound that being too social will give a bad person more chances to find weakness to assert their own agenda. If someone wants to set you up or get you fired they will try to gather information. This may seem over board but it’s important to practice selective socialization.

7. Be aware of your surroundings

If you work construction you’re trained to keep watch for equipment and people, but this is different. You do not know who you work with really. You get around a group of men that are friends and coworkers they can plot against you. They will pump each other up. Something happens that is called Wolfpack mentality. These guys will believe they are protecting the others by trying to eliminate you. Be aware of your surroundings. You can likely catch something like this early with your detailed daily notes. Make sure if you notice a situation escalating that you speak to a superior and get it handled.

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8. Mistakes happen. Learn from them.

I’ve yet to meet someone that didn’t mess up now and again. A few guys will demand perfection and if you don’t deliver they’ll ridicule you and use your mistake as a reason to say that’s why only men should be doing what you do. Back straight, head held high, and try again. You need to give yourself permission to make mistakes. If you’re also expecting perfection from yourself you will not be doing what you need to do for yourself. You’ll push yourself to hard. You’ll convince yourself you don’t belong there. Just don’t! Humans make mistakes. Learn from them.

9. Self care

Ok if your job is like mine there are times you could be working over 60 hours in a week. Cook dinner? I don’t think so. Forget about a shower. During those times rest seems like a fleeting memory. Friends are nonexistent in the rush season. All of the things⁰ mentioned are vital parts of our personal lives, no, vital to our very existence. Women we have to take Care of ourselves. If you’re feeling unwell take some time off. You should Take regular showers, Try to eat right, Exercise, and spend time with those you care about. Make time. Self care for mental and physical health are imperative to a long productive career.

10. Fight for equal pay

This has not been an issue for me but if it is for you try not to be afraid to fight. There are organizations and lawyers if necessary that’ll help you. Please know accepting a position in a job with mostly guys you have a responsibility, personal duty to hold yourself to a higher standard. Not just for yourself but for all the women fighting for equality. And we all fight. I may not fight for equal pay but I fight for respect and to be treated nicely at times. I’m lucky. The company I work for loves diversity and loves making a positive difference. But we fight against tradition and it is world wide.


11. It’s equal treatment not special treatment.

Something must be said about this before closing. We are not better than men. We don’t deserve extra. We want equal rights not more then the guys. No special treatment. Work hard, put in your hours, get your certs, and wear your ppe. Suit up show up and do the damn thing. You’ll not regret it.

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Author jillanne faye


Writers wanted

Ok soooooo if you’re a woman and you work in a man’s world please share your story. If you’re anyone who writes and have knews or you just want to write an informative article about this subject please do. Until I’m funded any work is done as a gift per se. So if you bed practice this is the place.

“When the day is done and still yesterday’s news, remember tomorrow and forget the blues”

Jillanne Faye

Tuesday and in my favorite spot

Hello everyone. Just checking in. Been working days and been to busy to post. I’ve also been writing my next article. It’s a good one full of info and tips.

Work life

Life has been really cool. Since starting this website I’ve learned so much about “the movement”, different associations, and even myself and current job. When I first began this journey I just wanted to get info out and mentor however I can to empower other women. I love men. I’m usually one if the guys even in my personal life. They deal with sexism and harassment just like us. Women are thought to be all about the home maker arts and men take care of the fixing things and trash. Sexism is clearly a problem but starting this blog wasn’t my main issue. Now I see how important it is women get equality. We are usually not as physically strong but we bring other things to the table men do not including intuition.

I learned of https://www.nawic.org/nawic/default.asp#mobile-menu there’s an office 5 minutes from my house. I’m absolutely gonna look in to these ladies. They are geared for construction trades. Offering classes and mentoring. I’m excited for this

What this has shown me about myself was not only did I lack confidence I also lacked social sense at work. Since then I’ve gained confidence in my abilities thanks in part to my amazing boss.

I don’t hate men! I’m not fond of people in general.

Want to take a moment to say I’m not a man hating feminist. There are so many good guys out there enjoying the diverse work environment and encourage us. My shift at night all the guys are super amazing and respectful. My boss. He’s in a league all his own. That man is a saint dealing with all us assholes. I digress….

Back to what my blog has taught me

Also how I had been socializing at work with my peers was just unsafe. Made them friends and the one that tried to ruin me he wore me down till we were together. All of that lead to terrible trouble and deep emotional pain that I had to face at work. Not something I recommend other ladies try. I’ve changed how I behave and work is going so well.

Ok back to work. Thanks for reading. Please reach out.

Author jillanne faye

11 tips for controlling our emotions

Let’s face it working with anyone can be challenging. We all have our beliefs and ideals as well as different work ethics. There’s brown nosers and tattletales. Bullies and drama queens. Then of course the office gossip. Being a female in a male dominated field has all that plus the added sexual harassment, the belief that you aren’t capable to lead, stereotyping us ladies as the pit mom or maid for their messes. This is real. Women have to be better than their male peers in order to even be on the job. All that being said throughout your days with so much to keep you on your toes someone is bound to say some thing rude or nasty. Reacting without stopping to think of the consequences can damage your reputation as well as your career.

Here are 11 different tips to help keep outbursts and repercussions to a minimum

“Don’t be distracted by emotions like anger, envy, resentment. These just zap energy and waste time.” Ruth Bader Ginsburg

1. Take a look at the impact of your emotions

We all have the capacity to be emotionally overwhelmed. Emotions that are perceived as bad and good. How do you know when it’s crossed a line?

Out of control emotions can lead to

  • Relationship or friendship conflict
  • Difficulty relating to others
  • Trouble at work or school
  • An urge to numb yourself with illicit drugs
  • Physical or emotional out bursts

Find some time to take stock of just how your uncontrolled emotions are affecting your day-to-day life. This will make it easier to identify problem areas (and track your success).

2. Shoot for regulation instead of repression

When we suppress or repress our emotions we keep ourselves from experiencing amd then expressing our emotions. We may do this consciously [suppression] or unconsciously [repression] This can lead to several mental and physical health issues.

Some symptoms include but aren’t limited to

  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Sleep issues like insomnia
  • Muscle tension and pain
  • Chronic back pain
  • Trouble managing stress
  • Substance abuse problems

When learning to manage your emotions be wary of stuffing them away ignoring them or becoming numb to them.  Healthy expression involves finding a balance between overwhelming emotions and none at all.

3. Identify what you’re feeling

It’s important to take the time to check with yourself about what mood you’re in. This will help ground you. Example. Say you and your boy friend just started living with one another. You work late. You’re hungry and tired when you get home but he waits for you. After he helps you outta the car and you guys are settled inside he says he thinks you might be lying about working late. You with out thinking yell throw a huge fit and storm out of the room in tears. Tripping up the stairs as you go twisting your ankle.

During this process at any time try interrupting yourself asking

  • What am i feeling right now <fear, exhaustion, hunger, and confusion>
  • What happened to make me feel this way<They did not trust me and I worked late with no lunch>
  • Is there some other explanation for their behavior<maybe they’re afraid, past trauma>
  • What do I wanna do about these feelings<hurt him like he’s hurting me>
  • Is there a better way to cope with these emotions<be patient and try to understand why he feels this way, excuse yourself til you shower and eat>

Considering your choices reframes your thought process and will help you make necessary changes helping you avoid that first extreme reaction.

Like with any habit this one will take effort and time to break. With practice this will be easier and become more and more effective.

4. Accept ALL of your emotions

It’s easy to mistakingly downplay your emotions to yourself.  When you’re crying and hyperventilating it is easy to say to yourself “this is no big deal”  “calm down” but doing this only invalidates you.

By accepting your emotions you become more comfortable with them with out acting in extreme ways.

Emotions are not good or bad they’re neutral. They might bring up bad feelings but in reality they’re just giving us info we can use

Accepting emotions may greater life satisfaction and fewer mental health symptoms. What’s more, people thinking of their emotions as helpful gives higher levels of happiness.

5. Keep a mood journal

Find patterns by Journaling. Old school journals are nifty but to journal on the go you have options. Personally I like using my notes app. Poetry and Journaling and it’s in my phone for reference later. This tip works best if done daily.

6. Take a deep breath

Yes easy as that. Next time you feel yourself slipping out of control try these steps

  • Breath in slowly. Breathe from your diaphragm not the chest
  • Hold it and count to 3
  • Consider a positive affirmation say it to yourself as you breath

7. Know when to express yourself

We all get it. Losing a loved one or going thru a break up is hard. Punching pillows and screaming in the desert are perfectly appropriate places to react this way. Yelling at your boss for unfair schedule not so much. Be aware of your surroundings and mindful of what you say and how you behave in front of important peoples.

8. Give yourself some space

You may physically leave a situation until ready to deal. You wanna remain calm. Or mentally put down an issue. Either way as long as you return to the problem this is more than acceptable.

Advice that is easy to follow

9. Try Meditation and self hypnosis

There are so many benefits to either mediation and/ or hypnosis. Both give access to the subconscious mind which is most helpful because change of habit happens there. If I learn how before posting this I’ll leave some links to videos I use for hypnosis and books I listen to as well.

10. Stay on top of stress

Stress makes dealing with emotions difficult. Even the chillest of folks have a hard time maintaining composure during high stress times.

Stress reduction is most important in keeping your emotions in check. Mindfulness is super helpful with managing stress and meditation and yes hypnosis.

Other ways to manage stress

  • Getting enough sleep
  • Self care with friends
  • Exercise
  • Being in nature
  • Making time for relaxation and hobbies

Therapy

Sometimes we can’t manage on our own and we’re emoting all over everyone. This is bad news. Luckily you can go see a therapist. Truth be told many mental disorders have mood instability as a symptom. Personality disorders, bipolar disorder, and also trauma.

Therapists offer compassionate help that is judgement free while you learn to regulate emotions manage stress and gain better coping skills.

Statistics say if left unchecked these mood swing issues can cause much damage giving us unhealthy coping skills including but not limited to Self harm and suicide.

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